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The moral responsibility of being out of the closet

 

Hi, I am Ashton Deroy. I am 24, a Business & Marketing student, a capitalist, a business writer for Toronto-Businessphere. I have worked mainly in Advertising & Tech. “Oh Yeah and I am really gay!” Sometimes people do ask me, “How are you so comfortable being out?” . To that I reply “I have been out for 8 years, it is as easy as breathing for me. 

I came out in 2010 at 17 in the small town of Brighton Ontario. A small, heavily religious and conservative community. Around the 3rd month of being out was my first bashing! From that point forward I knew I had to choose from being scared, or choose to do something. So in 2011 I joined the high school wrestling team and started working out. Did that make things worse in some ways? Yes, I’ve had everything implied about being a gay guy on the wrestling team. I’ve been called Pervert, fag, homo, sissy, queer, 

That all changed during a team mate to team mate competition where I got my first win. It was at that point I feel members of the team had started to respect my drive and stopped focusing on my sexuality! I must of been on the wrestling team for 1 year, I was never one of the best. However, the bullying stopped being physical. The odd verbal abuse happened, but no one wanted to fight me after learning a few simple movements that would knock the average person over. 

What would of happened if I didn’t come out? No one in my small town would of started standing up for the gay athletes, no one would learn to not assume weakness from sexuality and I would still be weak. This was the first time I knew being out was the right thing to do for my life. It would not be the last. 

Fast forward 5 years. I had been to community college, was working at a call center & wondering what to do with my life. 2015 in Brighton Ontario. 

Where are my peers at? They have kids, wives or divorces and messy lives! A few of the guy’s I went to High School with, now troll GrindR for discrete hookups (They are married!) They have family lives that are waiting to explode on the eventual surfacing of them being gay. 

This could of been my life, but I know Diana Skye, my grandma & Father have all said to me a few times they are glad this is not the road I chose to go down. You see, it is survival to be in the closet in a country that oppresses your freedoms. It is cowardly to do one in Canada given our current state of gay rights. For more on that click this wiki link! 

 

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Seneca Pride meeting, how can we accommodate Non-Binary and transgender people with a suitable bathroom solution?

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There is a Seneca Pride meeting March 16th 2017. Room E1401. 

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Ashton Deroy Writes: Transgender people have a recent history of having some issues with current bathroom accommodation in Canada. Unfortunately not everyone is as progressive about sharing the bathroom with their transgender peers. 

This causes the question, is the current accommodation enough or should we employ the gender neutral bathrooms like Snakes & Lattes on Bloor & Younge? We could also maybe try to get more single use bathrooms. 

When it comes to education we should have all forms of students from all different backgrounds with a voice.

Melissa found some gender Neutral bathroom locations on Seneca Newnham Campus.

http://www.senecacollege.ca/campuses/genderneutralwashrooms/gender-neutral-washrooms.html

Let me know your thoughts and send an email below: 

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Idealistic thoughts about Seneca Pride at Seneca College.

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Ashton Deroy writes: As we stated before we are going to start doing some regular blogging for Seneca Pride’s forum here. When I first came to Seneca Pride we were talking about how we could making our group more visible at Seneca College. 

Since then I got our website up,  Melissa Ronson has gotten us indexed with Seneca’s Student federation, and we have developed events plans. 

Perceptions at Seneca College

As far as the Business students go they are all pretty on board and happy the college has an LGBTQ group. However I would like to see more people excited for this group to exist. 

A fellow business student suggested that if Seneca had a gay bar this might generate more excitement for the group. I like that idea, but to execute it better we are going to do LGBTQ events. 

Connecting within the college

I would love it personally if we were more connected with the LGBTQ fashion students, Cosmetics students and etc. 

We have a lot of technological and Library students in the group & Business students. We’d like to see more diversified programs in the group as well to promoted all variances of thinking towards lgbtq issues, events and etc. 

What I like about the group

To start our leader Melissa Ronson is taking us in all of the right directions. She is respectful to institutions, various cultures and our group’s autisti-queer members. 

(autisi-queer: a term autistic people in the queer community call themselves, an example of this is the web master Ashton Deroy

We could of easily became do nothing “Social Justice Warriors”. Preaching against discrimination and trying to break down the system. 

Instead we are a rational LGBTQ group with a very rational leader in Melissa Ronson who wants to grow the group without being too obnoxious. I feel like this is the right direction for the group. 

I like the direction of helping LGBTQ positive charities, supporting fashion, and being apart of Toronto Pride formally. 

I feel like in the past I have seen Queen’s University Pride in Kingston sensationalize LGBTQ+ issues and attack their community. What that actually does within the community is diminish the importance of our causes. 

To conclude it is a great time to be in Seneca Pride. We are heading in positive Queer directions with perceptions, we have goals to connect in the college and our leader Melissa Ronson is a very promising figure head. 

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Ashton Deroy Writes: We are truly oppressed when we as a people do not use our voices to talk about concerns of our group in society. In February 2017 I mentioned to Melissa that we could turn our website in to an LGBTQ forum and she seemed up for it. 

If anyone wants to submit an article 500 words minimum for the website. You can email AshtonDeroy@gmail.com , you can choose to Omit your name from articles or use a pen name (within reason) but please use an email address for conversation purposes.